mentally strong – Journey

Hi, everyone. I just started research on trauma when one of my friend share her story about how she recover from it. My purpose of sharing is just to let you acknowledge about this and hope it might be helpful for all you too.

She faced tough days. To start, she have struggled with severe anxiety and depression for years. It stems from childhood trauma that makes her believe that she is worthless and will never be or do anything of importance. All she ever want to do is make life better for others and leave the world a better place, but she was let down and defeated every time she tried to do anything. She saw herself as nothing but a failure. It is so bad that she frequently have suicidal thoughts.

She felt hopeless, lost, worthless, and fearful that she will never do anything that matters.
She had to quit her job too because she was so depressed. She was extremely self-deprecating and do not value her life at all. She has given up on her dreams because things have never worked out for her.

This is nothing more than like a nightmare. It’s not as easy as it’s seem.

What is the definition of trauma in simple words?

The deeply distressing or disturbing event that overwhelms an individual’s ability to cope, causes feelings of helplessness, diminishes their sense of self and their ability to feel the full range of emotions and experiences.

Examples of traumatic events include:

death of family member, lover, friend, teacher, or pet
divorce
physical pain or injury (e.g. severe car accident)
serious illness
war
natural disasters
terrorism
moving to a new location
parental abandonment
witnessing a death
rape
domestic abuse
prison stay

These are some examples of traumatic events and my friend became one of the victim from it. But thank God she is totally fine by taking some help from professional therapist and by her own self belief and because of some most important people in her life. She has now started her own business. And I am so happy for her. I am glad she is fine now.

Thoughts 💭

From my point of view Trauma is a wound, and wounds can only heal in the right environment.

Love, compassion, empathy, and time
Are the few vital ingredients that are necessary for the healing environment has key components so surround yourself with good people

For more information

Check out this link https://youtu.be/4-tcKYx24aA

Hey, Today I am going to share some of the habits that I personally started, and believe me, it’s the outcome is so awesome. We all are well aware of Einstein, Sir Isaac Newton, and Bill Gates. They all have an amazing mentality to handle things which lead them to success. We normally think that mentally tough folks as larger-than character-life-like endurance athletes, war heroes, and rages to a rich billionaire. Well, when I study I came to know that the secret behind such extreme examples of superhuman self-control is mental toughness.

Indeed,it’s the stuff of great parenting, great teaching and great leadership.Moreover becoming more mentally tough is a personal necessity if you hope to achieve your own goals or lead others in achieving theirs.

Here are 5 habits, based on science

Deal with your own weakness and don’t judge others.

Mentally strong people understand the over whelming power of the thoughts.

For example, how fillings one’s head with criticism of others waste mental space better spent strengthning and improving one’s self

Researchers found that
Judging and criticizing others establishes and increases what’s known as “bias blind spot”

And in the typical motivating example, we believe others should think as we do. We discount they’re disagreeing with as stemming from their own biases. Yet, in building mental strength, the habit we want cultivate involves catching ourselves before passing judgment. We want to avoid even the slightest criticism of others in an effect to gain mental freedom and clarity of perception.

Indeed, real mental warrior even goes the extra step of turning their own criticisms on themselves.

Don’t trust your own thinking.

The powerful trait one builds up over time is by refusing to trust ones own thinking.In other words, humble person or in other words intellectual human is aware.She knows that not only might their be other valid points of view, she accept hers might be invalid

Moreover, the humble person is willing to be proven wrong without falling apart emotionally. She is an emotional warrior.Yet, to be clear, it doesn’t means that she lack her own confidence or belief. It mean she refrains from coming to conclusions on the basis of speculative assumptions and emotions.

Don’t pity yourself

Mentally strong recognize that self-pity is a Siren that can lure you watery and psychological death. For every excuse you create a mental ‘roommate’ who constantly nags at you whenever you face the slightest difficulty.The excuses can be like that you camtbwork any harder.

Be contrast,mentally strong people rid themselves of this enemy early on.

Show pity towards others

At the same time although mental strength requires showing little pity for ourselves, showing pity for others is incredibly powerful.

Researches from Barkeley have shown that
Mankind’s development is more on the other of survival of the kindest

In other words, empathy and sympathy are more necessary for human survival

Understand fear and how to control it

One of the most important characteristics of a mentally strong people is her ability to dal with uncertain surprices-particularly with bad ones

For example, we naturally tend to greet the unknown with a very of loss .This tendency biases our thinking and impairs our actions and abilities to intelligent take risks.

Yet, mentally strong people actively resists this tendency. They Self-distance by stepping away from a situation.

Responding quickly but haphazardly to a crises is typically more dangerous than a delayed, but more thoughtful responds.I think that’s the best for position of leadership and this make the people more successful professionally.

Hence, the “fearless leader” might be redundant phrase, at least insofar as mentally strong leaders go.

Hopefully, practicing the above 5 gives you a better start.🙂

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